Self-Trust and Self-Confidence go Hand-in-Hand

Have you ever broken a promise or a commitment you made to yourself?

Maybe you wanted to finish a course you purchased, or learn a new skill, or even spend some time on self-care. And then life kicked in. Someone needed you and you dropped everything and responded to their need. 

Perhaps your internal mind chatter (mind monkeys) convinced you that what you were trying to do wasn’t important, it was too hard, or it would take too long, and then you gave up on your commitment.

How about this one: you promised to meditate or journal or exercise daily…and you don’t (🙋‍♀️hand raised here, for the journal and exercise part 🙋‍♀️)

Every time you break a promise or commitment you’ve made to yourself, it negatively impacts your self-trust. And that leads to a lack of confidence. You see, trust and confidence go hand-in-hand.

It isn’t enough that you always keep your promises to others. Don’t get me wrong, that’s an amazing quality. But it isn’t enough to inspire either self-trust or self-confidence. Being at everyone else’s beck and call leads to a life of servitude, and not a life being of service.

What comes first? Self-confidence or self-trust?

In my mind, self-confidence is closely-related to self-esteem and self-worth and is more of a feeling or belief we have about ourselves.

Self-trust, on the other hand, relates to how we show up in the world and what action we take. We keep our promises, we show up on time, we do what we say we’re going to do. Again, this is easy for most of us when we commit to others, but what about when we commit to ourselves? Or what about the times when fear shows up and we are stopped dead in our tracks?

For me, once I started to consistently keep those promises I made to myself (self-trust), the more confident and worthy I began to feel. And the more confident and worthy I was feeling, the more I wanted to keep those commitments to myself (finally, a vicious cycle I wanted to be in!).

But I had to start somewhere and the simple act of ‘starting’ allowed me to grow and expand in ways I didn’t think were possible

In my ALIGN Framework, the G stands for Growth, which supports self-confidence and self-trust. Topics and courses available soon inside the Growth Pillar are:

• Law of Attraction
• Bouncing Back with Unstoppable Resilience
• Dealing with Life’s Changes
• Discover Your Prosperous Self
• Pathways to Prosperity
• Unlock your Potential

But you don’t have to wait because I have a couple of tips for you to get started.

1. Ask yourself what you are really afraid of? Are you afraid to fail? Are you afraid you’ll look selfish? Are you afraid of letting other people down? Are you afraid to really understand what’s going on inside? Are you afraid you won’t like what you find?

Start with small things you may have been afraid to try in the past. Take baby steps. If you’ve never meditated, don’t set a goal of daily 20-minute meditations at 5:30 am. Start with 3 minutes 3 days/week. If you’ve never taken any time for self-care, don’t schedule an hour. Try for 10 – 15 minutes of ‘me’ time.

2. Stay true to yourself. We all mess up and make mistakes from time to time. Instead of beating yourself up about what didn’t work, praise yourself for taking a chance and keeping a commitment you made. Or maybe the mistake was that you listened to your mind monkeys and didn’t take any action at all. Whatever it was, take responsibility, and then…..

Ask yourself if you took this action (or non-action) based on listening to your own intuition or based on someone else’s idea of what you should do. Did you tune into your inner gremlins or your inner guidance? Trusting your instincts and not being swayed by what someone else thinks you should do is a cornerstone of self-trust. Listen to what your heart is telling you.

Say yes to yourself by keeping a commitment you made to yourself.

About Janet:

Hi, I’m Janet and I’m all about helping you to awaken to your value, wholeness, and connection to the divine. And I do this by teaching and guiding you back to the truth of who you are and who you came here to be. Left to our own devices, most of us don’t know how to begin or where to start. We can’t see beyond our blind spots. That’s where I come in.

With decades of coaching, teaching, and mentoring success, I bring my clients what they need to crush their excuses so they can amplify their impact, boost their self-confidence, connect with their calling, and live their aligned life.